haha yeah i was up till late last night and i figured it out kinda, I was able to remove the menu. but i still have the html i want to pase but i do nto know whats wrong with it...
IF you head to Admin > Menus > Menu Administration, then click "Add new Item to this menu", you can make an HTML page to test the code with. That way, you don't have to test it on the menu itself, and if you break it, you just change pages and it goes away.
Otherwise, you could post the HTML here (perhaps paste it into a text file and upload it here, and I'll have a look).
Also bear in mind, you are opening with <tr>, which you should be opening with <table>. That's the big problem there.
When you were opening with TR, you were adding a row to table in the layout, and then when you did </table>, you were closing a layout table (that is, a table that's used in the layout of your site), causing the remaining menus to freak out.
But if you open with <table> and close with </table>, you should be good to go. In your case, because you're opening with <tr> and closing with </tr>, it's just adding a row to an existing table, which happens to work alright for your current template, but if you were to change templates, it's not guaranteed to work.